The Language of Beliefs

“It’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean.”

~ Tony Robbins









Beliefs can be very strong and compelling. Our beliefs set the path for our experiences, our successes and failures. They are underlying our emotional wounding. An awareness of our beliefs can play an important role in our emotional healing and emotional intelligence.

There are different types of beliefs. There are those beliefs that are helpful and support our success and well-being. There are some beliefs that are neutral. Then there are so-called limiting beliefs that undermine our well-being and bring about failure.

Only about 5 % of our beliefs are in the conscious mind.

About 95 % of our beliefs are in our subconscious mind.

Beliefs that are held in the subconscious mind are invisible to you. You are not aware that you hold them. However, they actually influence you in the same way that conscious beliefs do. Because you are not aware of a subconscious belief, you can’t take action to change the belief into a belief that supports your wellbeing rather than suppressing it. The vast majority of beliefs that are held in the subconscious mind are limiting beliefs that bring about self-sabotage.

Here are examples of limiting beliefs:

  • I am not good enough
  • My life is hard
  • I have to work hard for my money
  • I am not lovable
  • I don’t trust others
  • I am not good at relationships

Beliefs in the conscious and the subconscious mind can actually oppose one another. There might be a belief in the conscious mind that I am a good person. Then there might be a belief in the subconscious mind I am selfish. Selfish people are bad people. Both of these beliefs co-exist in your consciousness.

A subconscious belief has the same power as a conscious belief. You just are not aware that you have it. Positive thinking in the conscious mind cannot override a limiting belief that remains hidden in the subconscious mind. The actual belief itself has to be changed. The affirmation “I am rich” cannot override the belief “I am not good with money and will always be poor”.

We have said that our emotions are our friends that show us what we are truly feeling and thinking. Most importantly, emotions are the gateway to our subconscious mind. Emotions always tell us the truth.

By contrast, our mind can play all sorts of tricks to lead us up the garden path. It can justify just about anything by looking at something from a particular identity or viewpoint. It can reason, find evidence to support what you want to believe, trick you. Our minds assign meaning to everything we experience. Two people can make the same experience mean the opposite.

An alcoholic father had two sons. Tom, the eldest, took to the bottle himself and led an unhappy life. When asked about his life, he replied that he had been dealt a bad hand in life and never had the chance to succeed because of the kind of childhood he had. His younger brother Timothy became a successful businessman and philanthropist. When asked by a reporter what he thought was the single most crucial factor in his success he replied: my father. I knew all my life I did not want to end up like him. And so I strived to achieve my goals all my life. It gave me the drive I needed to succeed.

If we want to change our experiences, we need to change our beliefs. If you look into your wallet and it is empty, then you harbour limiting beliefs about money. It you desire a fulfilling relationship and you are single, you hold limiting beliefs about your ability to manifest your dream relationship. Limiting beliefs sabotage our lives. Becoming skilled at discovering our limiting beliefs and choosing empowering beliefs dramatically increases our ability to lead a conscious, content life.