Emotional Healing involves going with the flow of your Emotions

I have just come back from kayaking on the river. The picture perfect conditions made my heart sing. The water was smooth and calm, only disrupted by the occasional waves stemming from other boats. My kayak was gliding through the water with little effort. The feeling of freedom was accentuated by the gentle splash my paddle made with each immersion in the water.

This, I thought, is like going with the flow of your emotions. Of course it is much easier when things ‘go smoothly’, when we don’t face intense emotions that create big waves in our calm waters.

Intense emotions, like big waves, can make it hard to stay upright.



They can topple us over. Literally.


It’s a lot harder to get back on our feet once we’ve been knocked over. I would really like to stress here, though, that our emotions are not our enemy; on the contrary, they are our friends. They are the messengers that send us information about what’s happening in our subconscious mind. Bearing in mind that over 95% of our beliefs reside in our subconscious, this is very useful information to have.

Going with the flow of your emotions, even when the going gets tough, and the waves get bigger and bigger, is the most beneficial way of relating to your emotions. Engage with them. Allow them to be. Resisting and fighting against your emotions will not make them go away. On the contrary. It will glue you to them like superglue. There is no point then in shooting the messenger. It’s like holding the postman responsible for the content of the letters he delivers. Another messenger will come along anyway, and another, and they will come more frequently and with more intensity.

The more you resist your emotions, the more frequently they will find their way into your life. If you resist anger for example, all of the sudden you might find yourself subjected to bad drivers who cut in on you, ants all of the sudden decide to build a road across your kitchen bench, then you loose your car key and you don’t have a replacement to disable your immobiliser, so your car needs to be towed and you are up for hundreds of dollars to replace the immobiliser. What’s next? Perhaps a close friend betrays you……….Or you miss out on the project at work that you hoped would be give to you. Perhaps not only were you overlooked, your colleague who knocks off work at 4 pm every day was the one who got awarded this project – your dream project that’s right up your alley. 

Emotional healing and emotional thriving require us to listen to the message our emotions carry. Paying attention to the message will lead the way to releasing suppressed emotions. In other words, emotional freedom.

Katrin Den Elzen

Recovery, Renewal & Reflection                                                                                                                                                                                                                          

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