Emotional Intelligence and the power of commitment

Anyone can dabble, but once you’ve made that commitment, your blood has that particular thing in it, and it’s very hard for people to stop you.”      Bill Cosby.


saying yes


The wonderful thing about emotional intelligence is that it can be learned. Whilst you are not going to be a master overnight, it actually isn’t that hard and can even be fun  – as long as you are motivated. Like any other skill you might want to acquire, it requires motivation. Even excellent teaching will only yield mediocre results without that vital, powerful ingredient: commitment.

The minute you commit, in this case developing your emotional intelligence skills, something powerful happens inside of you. Your intent and your neurons line up. You are focused and willing to put in the energy required to learn a new skill. You know that you have to water the plant, the seedling, to reap the juicy benefits of emotional freedom and satisfying relationships. You don’t give up, you see setbacks or challenges as opportunities to learn from. But all this doesn’t happen, if you don’t say yes.

Richard Hill, a neuro-psychologist from Sydney, has stated that different neurological pathways are activated when you say yes as opposed to saying no. By saying yes, those areas in your brain are activated that support your success. Do not underestimate the power of saying yes.

By the way, saying yes to yourself or to learning a new skill can also entail saying no to someone or something else as part of the process of saying yes to you. Commitment lines up your intent with your action. Synchronicity kicks in. Things line up in your outer world, your environment as well.

Commitment means that you are prepared to put in the energy and effort to obtain your goal. Success awaits.

Commitment is required if you want to become emotionally competent, and it is also one of the range of skills that make up one’s emotional intelligence.

Katrin Den Elzen

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